Where is Their Energy?

Dwayne Phillips

We can tell when we have affected another person by observing their energy.

One of the better questions to ask when trying to convince or teach or somehow affect another person is, “When do they gain energy?”

Consider:

At what point does the other person change their posture? That is the energy. That is the topic that is important to them.

When do they:

raise their voice
sit up straight
bolt up
stand up
stop breathing
look over their glasses
widen their eyes
change the expression on their face
this list goes on and one.

All these actions require energy. If the action occurs, the other person experienced a jolt of energy. I have affected them in some way. I now know what they want to discuss, what they want, what they will work towards.

How do I notice that energy? By noticing. By observing. By putting some of my energy into the effort.

Some folks are much better at this noticing than me. I have to try harder, but I can do it. I find that most persons can as well.